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Transgendered Reform Jews Now Have Blessings

In a groundbreaking move to recognize the experiences of transgendered Jews, the Reform movement has published several prayers for sanctifying the sex-change process.

The Union for Reform Judaism this week released the second edition of Kulanu, the union’s 500-page resource manual for gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender inclusion.

The issue of transgendered Jews was first addressed in 1978 when the Central Conference of American Rabbis deemed it permissible for one who had undergone a sex-change operation to be married according to Jewish tradition. In 1990, the CCAR allowed such individuals to be converted. And in 2003, the union retroactively applied its policy on gays and lesbians to the transgender and bisexual communities.

“It’s a logical next step in this process,” said one of the Kulanu editors.

Read the entire story on The Jewish Daily Forward website.

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Way to Override, Vermont!

Vermont has become the fourth state to legalize gay marriage – and the first to do so with a legislature’s vote.

The Legislature voted Tuesday to override Gov. Jim Douglas’ veto of a bill allowing gays and lesbians to marry. The vote was 23-5 to override in the state Senate and 100-49 to override in the House. Under Vermont law, two-thirds of each chamber had to vote for override.

The vote came nine years after Vermont adopted its first-in-the-nation civil unions law.

It’s now the fourth state to permit same-sex marriage. Massachusetts, Connecticut and Iowa are the others. Their approval of gay marriage came from the courts.

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Rachel Maddow Gives Me the Urge to Hook Up

… to cable, that is.

In the last 10 years, there hasn’t really been any show that could inspire me to buy cable television services.

Then along came Rachel.

Now I’m sneaking around watching her at other people’s houses. I’m even hanging out with mom and dad when I’ve already had dinner, just for the chance to see Ms. Maddow in high def glory.

I disconnected the cable when my son was little, when I realized Sesame Street was more hypnotic than educational. There wasn’t much on cable I wanted either of us to see.

Now that he’s older, when he asks, I keep telling him I won’t pay for television because books are better.

But I’m seriously toying with the idea of hooking up on the sly. I could watch Maddow when he’s not here and unhook the cable when he is.

Bad sneaky mommy, right?

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A round-up of Maddow posts:

Will Rachel Maddow Please Bartend My Next Party?

Rachel Maddow and the Flying Spaghetti Monster

Rachel Maddow on The View

Rachel and Martha Having Drinks: A Lesbian Fantasy

Rachel Maddow in January Vogue

Butch Glamour Girls?

Will Success Ruin Rachel Maddow?

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Pick Up Your Flip Camera and Meet the Idaho Challenge

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Iowa Makes Gay Marriage Look Normal

04iowaspanThis Associated Press photo by Steve Pope in the New York Times made me realize that Iowa is making gay marriage look so normal.

Maybe the country really is warming up to the idea of same-sex marriage, just not California style.

I love my home state, but rally and protest pictures taken of Prop. 8 celebrations, gatherings, and protests look much more flamboyant… we’re tattooed, pierced, androgynous, transgendered, butch, femme, in drag, wearing leathers, feathers, and sequins, and all-in-all more radical.

I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but I’m sure a good part of the country watches us on the news and finds us terrifying.

Iowa looks ’bout as scary as a church social. I’d let these good folk indoctrinate my children.

Read the story “Iowa court voids gay marriage ban” in the New York Times.

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My Kid’s Gay Hat

novmodernclothhatWe’ve been experiencing a weird phenomenon lately. People have been addressing my 12-year-old son and me as “ladies”.

I suppose this is a byproduct of gay friendliness, but it’s still a little weird.

The first time this happened was in January in Disneyland when a park photographer approached us and said, “Would you ladies like to get your photo taken? You could even have it taken with Darth Vader!”

We sort of looked at each other… one of those movie looks. I told the photographer “my son would probably love to have his picture taken with Darth Vader, but I’ll just watch.”

She sort of stammered and apologized while she handed him a light saber.

Then early in March, leaving a No On 8 rally in San Francisco, a cab driver did it again, “You ladies have a good evening.”

Here’s what’s going on: My son and I are now the same height. I’m sure that by the time school gets out for the summer he’ll be towering over me. In a frisson of sixth grade fashion flair, he’s taken to wearing a fedora. But under the hat, he still has a sweet baby face, right on the brink of adolescence. I like to say he’s stumbling into puberty. And, I look really gay. Although I’d describe myself as a medium-maintenance sort of femme, I like to wear my hair shorter than Rachel Maddow’s, on the verge of crew cut. I have those interesting glasses that seem to be the mark of the modern lesbian.

So, people take one look at us – me looking like a little ol’ dyke and him a similarly-sized person in Chuck Taylors, jeans, an ironic t-shirt, and a hat – and assume he’s my butch girlfriend.

Luckily, my easygoing kid thinks this is really funny… but I’ve decided I’ll throw a couple of bucks in the therapy jar just in case he needs it later.

He's not as tall as Darth Vader... yet.

He's not as tall as Darth Vader... yet.

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At the 15-Year Mark We Have A “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” Standoff Brewing

April marks the 15-year anniversary of the U.S. policy of gays in the military known commonly as Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.

Before the institution of the policy, suspected gay and lesbian soldiers and sailors were persecuted in witch hunts, investigated, court-martialed, and dishonorably discharged. Careers and lives were routinely ruined.

DADT prohibits any homosexual or bisexual person from disclosing his or her sexual orientation, or from speaking about any homosexual relationships including marriages or other familial attributes, while serving in the United States armed forces. The “don’t ask” part of the policy indicates that superiors should not initiate investigation of a servicemember’s orientation in the absence of disallowed behaviors, though mere suspicion of homosexual behavior can cause an investigation.

DADT came about as a compromise because while campaigning for the presidency, Bill Clinton had promised to allow all citizens – regardless of orientation – to serve openly in the military. Following opposition, the compromise measure was crafted by Colin Powell in 1993 and has been in place since then, even through the more conservative Bush administration.

Now, 15 years later, much of the country has been watching with interest to see whether President Barack Obama will overturn DADT, clearing the way for gays, lesbians, and bisexuals to serve openly in the military.

This on GayWire.com today:

Despite his commitment on the campaign trail to ending the military’s discriminatory ‘don’t ask, don’t tell’ policy and subsequently emphatic pronouncements from his camp suggesting that he would end the ban on gay and lesbians serving openly in the U.S. military, President Barack Obama has apparently tabled any immediate action that would overturn the rule.

“The president and I feel like we’ve got a lot on our plates right now and let’s push that one down the road a little bit,” Defense Secretary Robert Gates said with respect to DADT during an appearance on Fox News Sunday.

Though the president is said to have consulted with Gates and the Joint Chiefs of Staff on lifting the ban on gays in the military, “that dialogue, though, has really not progressed very far at this point in the administration,” Gates said.

Okay, granted Obama has his hands full, but even as he “pushes this one down the road a little bit” both sides are building armaments.

Several prestigious military academys have formed LGBT alumni groups in order to raise the visibility of retired military members who served their country, these groups include Knights Out (West Point) and USNA Out, a group of Naval Academy graduates.

Meanwhile, a group of retired military officers is calling for the Obama administration to uphold DADT. (Story here.)

I heard part of a great interview today on Michael Krasny’s Forum on KQED public radio.

The guest was Nathaniel Frank, who is the author of a new book, Unfriendly Fire: How the Gay Ban Undermines the Military and Weakens America. He explained how DADT has resulted in an exodus of servicemembers who had the potential to be career members of the military. They’ve left because of pressure, discharge, and the stress of being closeted. As they’ve left, our armed forces have cast a wider net, often accepting people in the service at standards below what was once considered acceptable because of the need to keep uniforms filled.

What I found most poignant about the interview was when Frank explained that LGBT servicemembers can’t freely and honestly access basic and necessary services like chaplain support and psychiatric counseling, nor can they share important medical information with military doctors. They can’t do these things during service, or after returning from tours of duty. He explained that many soldiers are not seeking the mental health services it has been widely publicized that they need after active duty in Iraq because of DADT.

While straight servicemembers return home to warm family welcomes, the happy embraces of spouses and sweethearts, and community celebrations, LGBT servicemembers generally don’t see these welcomes. Fear of exposure pressures them into keeping their homecomings private, which further adds to their isolation.

Nathaniel Frank is a senior research fellow at the Palm Center at UC Santa Barbara, and an adjunct faculty member at the Gallatin School at New York University. If you were raised as a military brat, his book would make a perfect Father’s Day gift for your dad.

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I’m Loving This Lesbian Dick… Uh, Web Series

fletchOh my heck… I’ll never get to write that headline again!

I recently found B.J. Fletcher: Private Eye, a lesbian-themed web series now in its second season. (Does the web have seasons?)

From the show’s website:

Created and produced by Regan Latimer and Bee Charmer Productions, B.J. Fletcher: Private Eye is an exciting new web series about to launch its second season. Season One received a fantastic response and won the 2008 AfterEllen.com Web Series Contest in the United States. The show had aan amazing 50,000 views the first season.

With an all Canadian cast and crew, featuring Lindy Zucker and Dana Puddicombe in the leading roles, B.J. Fletcher: Private Eye is a distinctly new production bringing to life strong female characters with the right balance of action, comedy, and diversity.

If you’re a newcomer to the show, you can start watching here.

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Straight Girls Kissing Girls, Gay Boys Kissing Girls…

I’m totally loving this ironic cover on Katy Perry’s megahit “I Kissed a Girl,” staged in a men’s restroom.

Ivri Lider, Israel’s top male pop star, is openly gay.

This version is so much hotter than Katy Perry’s. I love his look. Now, if only he was a girl…

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Will Rachel Maddow Please Bartend My Next Party?

Rachel was adorable mixing drinks with Martha Stewart, but she and Jimmy Fallon are really, truly funny together. I want to party with them! Rachel is proof-positive that smarter is always sexier:

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US Endorses UN Gay Rights (Or, Undoing Bush Leaf By Leaf)

The Obama administration has formally endorsed a U.N. statement calling for the worldwide decriminalization of homosexuality, a measure that former President George W. Bush had refused to sign.

The move was the administration’s latest in reversing Bush-era decisions that have been heavily criticized by human rights and other groups. The United States was the only western nation not to sign onto the declaration when it came up at the U.N. General Assembly in December.

Read more on Reuters.

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Twitter With Me?

Now Twittering… Follow along.

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“Milk” is out on DVD

milk_movie_posterThe 2009 two-time Oscar winner Milk has been released on DVD and is also on Netflix now.

This is great news because people in all those backwoods places that refused to show the movie in public theaters will finally have the opportunity to see it in the privacy of their own home.

Rent it. Share it. Come out.

(Here’s a link to a roundup of my Milk posts.)

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Ellen Page Goes Gay on SNL

Catch Juno cutie Ellen Page responding to rumors that she’s a lesbian with this flippy skit on Saturday Night Live:

(Click photo to jump to video.)

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Just One More Slice…

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… and then I promise I’ll cut this out until next year!

Last year in the New York Times blog, John Tierney wrote about International Pi Day. (Which is, by the way, originally an invention of The Exploratorium in San Francisco.) He said:

The Exploratorium has gathered a few genres on its Pi Day site, including this limerick:

If inside a circle a line
Hits the center and goes spine to spine
And the line’s length is d
The circumference will be
d times 3.14159

These are his suggestions for writing your own odes to Pi:

You can write a traditional haiku about pi like this one:

Unending digits . . .
Why not keep it simple, like
Twenty-two sevenths?

Or, for the ambitious, you can try a pi-ku that’s both a haiku and a mnemonic device in which the number of characters in each word equals the value of the corresponding digit of pi. Here’s an example that enables you to derive 11 digits of pi (3.1415926535) by counting the number of characters in each of the 11 words:

Let C over D
(Wheel perimeter on height)
Equal its value.

Then, for the real purist, there’s a new form of pi-ku proposed by Ian Chillag of NPR: Instead of the 5-7-5 syllable pattern of haiku, honor pi with lines of 3, 1 and 4 syllables. Like:

Why is pi
Square
As pie is round?

Here is my own attempt at pi-ku, being silly and trying to make it erotic, of course — like my haiku.

Reciting
Pi,
math gets me hot.

I’m quitting now. Really.

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More Pi, Please

This year Pi Day sort of snuck up on me. I think that next year I’ll have to create a blog carnival or something. There’s just infinite potential!

I love this cartoon about Pi Approximation Day (July 22). pi_day_dinosaurs

Call me obsessed. I’ve always had a thing for certain numbers, especially what are called the “master numbers” in numerology. I love 11, 22, 33, and 44. My birthday is in master numbers (11/22) and I frequently see them on clocks. For example, I’ll wake up during the night and it will be 3:33, or I’ll check the time at work and it will be 11:22. This has driven some of the people in my life crazy (or at least they thought I was crazy), but other friends say they now see it too, and frequently report my emails arriving with the time 11:22 on them. One friend called last year on my birthday to say she had just bought lunch and the tab was $11.22 and she knew she should call me!

I thought we were on to a great thing when an ex-girlfriend and I had our first date on 9/9/2007, which, of course, is all nines (2007 adds up to nine), and nines have their own special kind of magic. For starters, if you add up the integers in any multiple of nine (what’s called the digital root), you’ll get nine. Try it with the date 9/9/2007, which is really 3×9 or 27, which is again, (2+7), 9. I love it! Here’s some more fun information on nine.

As for Pi. I think I’m a little obsessed. I’m using memorization as a daily meditation exercise, as part of my other yoga practices. I’m up to about 50 decimal points. Who knows where I’ll be next year at 3/14?

P.S. Here’s a link to one of my short stories about Pi.

P.P.S. I just discovered there’s a world ranking list for memorizing Pi. Chao Lu of China tops the list with a world record memorization of 67,890 digits. It took him 24 hours and 4 minutes to recite it! Hell, I’ll be happy if I can get to 100!

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Iron Chef Lesbian and Girlfriend, Pregnancy À Deux

lesbianchefIron Chef America star Cat Cora has announced that she is nearly five months pregnant with her third child, a baby boy.

Cat’s partner Jennifer is also pregnant and is due to deliver next month.

Internet sources are saying Cora’s pregnancy is the result of being implanted with Jennifer’s egg, and the couple’s second child was from Cat’s egg and carried by Jennifer. The couple is unsure of the biological mother of the child Jennifer is currently carrying because Jen was implanted with embryos from both her and Cat. All their offspring are biologically related through the same anonymous sperm donor.

It’s complicated, but definitely proof that the measure of a skilled chef is in her ability to make an omelet.

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The Defense of Marriage Act

As California sits and waits for a State Supreme Court decision on the legality of Proposition 8, I want to throw a huge shout-out to the legally married same-sex couples in Massachusetts who are now challenging the Defense of Marriage Act. (Read about it on Gay City News.)

And, I’m just wondering: Am I the only one who thinks of it as the “Defensive Heterosexuals Act”?

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Rachel Maddow on “The View”

Fun interview… loving Rachel!

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Equality California Set to Air “Hope” Ad

Equality California‘s new ad demanding Proposition 8′s repeal, which will air beginning Friday (while the State Supreme Court justices take up to 90 days to decide if civil rights for minorities can be decided by popular vote):

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