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With a Tongue This Slippery, Rick Warren Would Make a Fine Lesbian

Rick Warren, pastor of the Saddleback Church, was at the center of a hornet’s nest of controversy when he was invited to deliver the invocation at President Obama’s inauguration.

LGBT groups howled in protest, because of Warren’s public anti-gay statements. At the center of the controversy was this interview with Steve Waldman, the editor-in-chief of Beliefnet, where Warren expressed his sentiments about gays marrying:

WARREN: The issue to me, I’m not opposed to that [some partnership rights] as much as I’m opposed to redefinition of a 5,000 year definition of marriage. I’m opposed to having a brother and sister being together and calling that marriage. I’m opposed to an older guy marrying a child and calling that marriage. I’m opposed to one guy having multiple wives and calling that marriage.

BELIEFNET: Do you think those are equivalent to gays getting married?

WARREN: Oh , I do. For 5,000 years, marriage has been defined by every single culture and every single religion – this is not a Christian issue. Buddhist, Muslims, Jews – historically, marriage is a man and a woman.

Of course, no one in the LGBT community appreciated being likened to pedophiles, bigamists, or people committing incest, which wasn’t just an interpretation of what he said, it’s what he said.

Now, in an interview with Christianity Today, Warren talks about the backlash against his invitation to participate in the inauguration, and slips and slides around, parsing his language. Here’s his take on the interview exchange above:

In a Beliefnet interview, which was an hour long, Steve Waldman asked me about gay marriage. I said I believe marriage, that term, should be reserved for a man and a woman. I’m not saying same-sex couples don’t love each other. I gave some examples of what I think shouldn’t be considered to be marriage, like an older guy with a younger woman. Then [Waldman] said, “Are you saying that those are the same thing?” I said, “Oh sure.” It made it sound like I was equating homosexuality with pedophilia and incest. I don’t believe it, never have, and never would.

And just to futher confuse things, here’s Warren on Larry King Live a couple of nights ago, claiming he’s not against gay marriage:

However, just before the election, he made this video for his congregation, endorsing Proposition 8:

(Side note to Rick – next time, sit farther away from the camera, please.)

Will the real Rick Warren please stand up?

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Way to Override, Vermont!

Vermont has become the fourth state to legalize gay marriage – and the first to do so with a legislature’s vote.

The Legislature voted Tuesday to override Gov. Jim Douglas’ veto of a bill allowing gays and lesbians to marry. The vote was 23-5 to override in the state Senate and 100-49 to override in the House. Under Vermont law, two-thirds of each chamber had to vote for override.

The vote came nine years after Vermont adopted its first-in-the-nation civil unions law.

It’s now the fourth state to permit same-sex marriage. Massachusetts, Connecticut and Iowa are the others. Their approval of gay marriage came from the courts.

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States & Nations Recognizing Same-Sex Couples

It’s a fast-growing group of governments that recognize same-sex marriages and same-sex civil unions.

There are even a couple to add to the list since my friend E. compiled it just days go (Yea, Iowa! Go Vermont!)… but it’s a good list and anyone who thinks the U.S. is a world leader in LGBT rights should take a look at it.

Read the list here.

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Iowa Historically Civil Rights Leader

I really appreciate the serious commentary over at Box Turtle Bulletin.

Hop over there and read Jim Burroway’s post about Iowa’s recent court decision that allows same-sex marriage, and why Iowa might be the obvious place for the big ball of equality to really get rolling.

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Iowa Ruling Teases Californians Still Working on Prop. H8

Same-sex marriage advocates in California were whooping and hollering as the Iowa Supreme Court overturned that state’s law banning the practice.

(You can see my earlier post about Iowa here.)

But as those advocates argued the Iowa ruling’s language shores up their California case, same-sex marriage opponents argued the cases are not as similar as they seem.

In an interview with the Oakland Tribune, National Center for Lesbian Rights legal director Shannon Minter, who argued before the California Supreme Court last month, acknowledged that the two cases’ issues “are not identical, but the Iowa Supreme Court emphasizes that equal protection is an essential principle that defines the ‘blueprint’ of our government, which is the foundation of our argument in the Prop 8 case.”

“A measure that changes something so essential to our existing form of government is, by definition, too significant to be a mere ‘amendment,’” he said, echoing his argument to the state Supreme Court that Prop. 8 had to
have been a constitutional revision requiring legislative votes to be placed on the ballot rather than just petition signatures.

“It’s obviously not relevant to the current California case,” said Andy Pugno, general counsel for the Yes on Proposition 8 campaign.

Iowa’s court also held that a separate status other than marriage for same-sex couples can’t be considered equal, Minter said. “The fact that two state supreme courts, including now a court in the heartland of our country, have now followed the California Supreme Court’s holding on that issue underscores very powerfully that the court cannot back away from that holding “… without undermining its credibility and stature,” he said.

Pugno acknowledged there’s been a pattern of state supreme courts interpreting their constitutions to permit same-sex marriage, but also a pattern of voters subsequently amending those constitutions to forbid it. “They may do exactly the same in Iowa now.

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Iowa Makes Gay Marriage Look Normal

04iowaspanThis Associated Press photo by Steve Pope in the New York Times made me realize that Iowa is making gay marriage look so normal.

Maybe the country really is warming up to the idea of same-sex marriage, just not California style.

I love my home state, but rally and protest pictures taken of Prop. 8 celebrations, gatherings, and protests look much more flamboyant… we’re tattooed, pierced, androgynous, transgendered, butch, femme, in drag, wearing leathers, feathers, and sequins, and all-in-all more radical.

I’m not saying that’s a bad thing, but I’m sure a good part of the country watches us on the news and finds us terrifying.

Iowa looks ’bout as scary as a church social. I’d let these good folk indoctrinate my children.

Read the story “Iowa court voids gay marriage ban” in the New York Times.

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Same Sex Marriage A-Okay in Iowa!!!

This from the Associate Press just minutes ago:

DES MOINES, Iowa — Iowa Supreme Court says state’s same-sex marriage ban violates rights of gays and lesbians.

Hello? California? Are you listening?

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My Kid’s Gay Hat

novmodernclothhatWe’ve been experiencing a weird phenomenon lately. People have been addressing my 12-year-old son and me as “ladies”.

I suppose this is a byproduct of gay friendliness, but it’s still a little weird.

The first time this happened was in January in Disneyland when a park photographer approached us and said, “Would you ladies like to get your photo taken? You could even have it taken with Darth Vader!”

We sort of looked at each other… one of those movie looks. I told the photographer “my son would probably love to have his picture taken with Darth Vader, but I’ll just watch.”

She sort of stammered and apologized while she handed him a light saber.

Then early in March, leaving a No On 8 rally in San Francisco, a cab driver did it again, “You ladies have a good evening.”

Here’s what’s going on: My son and I are now the same height. I’m sure that by the time school gets out for the summer he’ll be towering over me. In a frisson of sixth grade fashion flair, he’s taken to wearing a fedora. But under the hat, he still has a sweet baby face, right on the brink of adolescence. I like to say he’s stumbling into puberty. And, I look really gay. Although I’d describe myself as a medium-maintenance sort of femme, I like to wear my hair shorter than Rachel Maddow’s, on the verge of crew cut. I have those interesting glasses that seem to be the mark of the modern lesbian.

So, people take one look at us – me looking like a little ol’ dyke and him a similarly-sized person in Chuck Taylors, jeans, an ironic t-shirt, and a hat – and assume he’s my butch girlfriend.

Luckily, my easygoing kid thinks this is really funny… but I’ve decided I’ll throw a couple of bucks in the therapy jar just in case he needs it later.

He's not as tall as Darth Vader... yet.

He's not as tall as Darth Vader... yet.

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Meghan McCain Supports Same Sex Marriage

There’s something oddly appealing about John McCain’s 24-year-old daughter, Meghan, who is getting a lot of press these days for taking on Ann Coulter and telling the women on The View that Laura Ingraham (who referred to Meghan as “plus-sized”) can “kiss my fat ass”. Here she is, telling Larry King she supports gay marriage:

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Ellen and Oprah Together on O Magazine Cover

Oprah Winfrey offered to share the cover of O magazine with Ellen DeGeneres, and DeGeneres — who’s been campaigning for the spot — has accepted.

Winfrey surprised DeGeneres with a video telephone call on Friday’s episode of “The Oprah Winfrey Show.” She told a shocked DeGeneres that she was “calling to officially invite you on the cover of O.”

DeGeneres, who’s been mounting a campaign for the cover during her “Ellen” talk show, told Winfrey: “I can’t believe you’re serious about this. I’m freaking out right now.”

Winfrey had gone solo on the cover of O magazine for nine years before sharing the spot with first lady Michelle Obama.

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Portia de Rossi Makes Fake Prop 8 PSA

Last night on ABC’s Jimmy Kimmel Live, Portia de Rossi offered up this spoof on a Prop H8 PSA:

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The Defense of Marriage Act

As California sits and waits for a State Supreme Court decision on the legality of Proposition 8, I want to throw a huge shout-out to the legally married same-sex couples in Massachusetts who are now challenging the Defense of Marriage Act. (Read about it on Gay City News.)

And, I’m just wondering: Am I the only one who thinks of it as the “Defensive Heterosexuals Act”?

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Hey, What’s Your Sign?

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Well, there was plenty of media coverage of the State Supreme Court hearing. Ultimately no one knows what the judges will do, and they’ve got 90 days to do it.

The Advocate has this round-up story of how the California newspapers are reporting on the day’s events.

(Thanks to Steve Rhodes for the great photo on Flickr with a Creative Commons license, and thanks to the girl for a great sign.)

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We Went Marching on a School Night

eveofjusticeLast night, my son and I, and a few thousand others, made the walk from Harvey Milk Plaza to San Francisco’s City Hall, as part of the Eve Of Justice candlelight march, intended to encourage the State Supreme Court to overthrow Prop. 8.

I’m not a mommy blogger, I’m not even a lesbian mommy blogger. Although I know I’ve mentioned that I have a son, I tend to write more about things I’m not ready to have my kid read, than about my interactions with him. However, tonight was one of those special nights and I have a really special kid.

I’m hoping that my son, who is stumbling into puberty, will grow up to be a kind man. All arrows point that way. He’s a great guy with an easy way about him, a good sense of humor, and he’s genuinely nice to people. In return people are nice back.

I asked him if he wanted go to the rally in SF last night, and at first he wasn’t sure. Then he thought about it and said “I think I would”. So I left work a little early and we drove south, over the bridge, and into the city. (Well, actually I drove, and he did his math homework.)

We arrived in the Castro with a few minutes to spare. My son sized it all up and said “I need a restroom, candles, and a sign to carry.” True to form, my son asked a shopkeeper if we could use his restroom, and he agreed. By the time I emerged from my turn in the restroom, a nice guy in a black fedora was comparing hat brims with my son. Minutes later he met us outside and handed us a sign. And again, within minutes, my son found a guy to sell us a pair of little electric candles for $2 each.

Then we were off with the crowd.

It was a school night. We’ll have to be out of the house at 7:15 this morning – he to school, me to teach a yoga class before my “regular” job. And we live quite a distance north of San Francisco.

So what was this lesbian mommy thinking?

I was thinking that I had an incredible opportunity to teach my son something about civil rights, and – hopefully – to let him witness something historic… and I think I did.

You see, one of my great hopes is that he won’t have to see many civil rights rallies in his lifetime. I hope they won’t be needed. I want him to understand the important of equal rights – not just for his lesbian mommy – but for everybody. I want him to be able to explain that importance to the people of his generation, although I’m hoping he won’t ever have to.

You can read about the Eve of Justice rally on SFGate, the SF Chronicle’s website. There’s also a video below that will give you a taste of the event.

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Prop. 8 Hearing: All The Details

Gird your loins. This is the week the California Supreme Court will hear the arguments for, and against, Proposition 8.

My how times flies. It seems like just yesterday we were protesting in the streets. Dust off those candles, girls – it’s time to do it again.

The state Supreme Court will hear arguments Thursday on the validity of Proposition 8, the ban on same-sex marriage that California voters approved in November.

The court said it would hold a three-hour hearing, from 9 a.m. to noon, at its chambers in San Francisco. The proceedings will also be televised statewide on the California Channel, the court said. A ruling is due within 90 days of the hearing.

The California Supreme Court will hold three hours of oral arguments from 9.am-noon Thursday on three lawsuits seeking to overturn Proposition 8, the ballot measure that amended the state constitution to reinstate the ban on same-sex marriage the court threw out last year.

Lawyers representing same-sex couples and a group of local governments led by the city of San Francisco will get 90 minutes to present their arguments. The lawyers are Shannon Minter, legal director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights; Chief Deputy City Attorney Therese Stewart and Michael Maroko, a partner of Los Angeles lawyer Gloria Allred.

The sponsors of Proposition 8 will have an hour. They are being represented by Pepperdine law school dean Kenneth Starr, the former independent counsel who investigated President Bill Clinton during the Monica Lewinsky scandal. California Attorney General Jerry Brown has taken the unusual step of declining to defend the initiative. Deputy Attorney General Christopher Krueger will have half an hour to explain the state’s position.

A record number of 62 friend-of-the-court briefs have been filed in the case, more than two-thirds of them in support of striking down the same-sex marriage ban. They are available for viewing here.

Same-sex marriage advocates are planning to hold candlelight vigils across California the night before the hearing and are encouraging supporters to rally outside the courthouse on Thursday.

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Proposition 8: It’s About Justice and Civil Rights

Robin Tyler and her wife, Diane Olson, were among the original plaintiffs in the lawsuit that eventually gave same-sex couples the right to marry in California – and was then overturned by the state referendum known as Proposition 8.

The legality of the proposition has been challenged and will be heard by California’s State Supreme Court on Thursday.

In an opinion piece in the SF Chronicle’s SFGate website, Tyler talks about the difference between emotion and reality. She says she and her wife will never say “Don’t Divorce Us” because this isn’t about them, or about unmarrying couples. It’s about not allowing 50 percent of a state’s population to discriminate against a minority group.

Read her piece here.

You can read more of Robin Tyler’s opinion writing for the Huffington Post here.

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About Milk, The Movie

Over the past year, I’ve made quite a few posts about Milk, beginning with the story of my walk around San Francisco’s City Hall. I thought you might want to check them out.

And of course, the Academy Awards and the aftermath:

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Best Academy Awards Speech Ever

‘nuf said.

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Listen All You Commie, Homo-Loving Sons of Guns

There was no finer place to be last night, listening to Sean Penn give his acceptance speech, than the Academy of Friends gala in San Francisco. The annual gala, which benefits a dozen HIV/AIDS service organizations in the Bay Area, was packed with revelers.

When Sean Penn was announced as Best Actor, the hall went wild. Men in tuxedos were literally leaping in the air. Just as quickly, the place quieted down to hear what he had to say.

I proceeded to cry through his entire acceptance speech… as if… well, I had won the damn award. I know this award is supposedly about the craft of acting and Penn’s skill as performer, but just want to say thanks to him for using his limited air time to stick up for all the same-sex couples in California who are, or would like to be, married.

There was plenty of excitement outside the gala. You can read about the reaction in The Castro here.

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Lesbian TV Wedding Riles Conservatives

You knew this was coming:

A lesbian couple got married on a soap opera and Focus on the Family had to issue a press release.

Following the recent wedding of Bianca and Reese on ABC’s All My Children, Glenn T. Stanton, FOF’s director of family formation studies (honestly, that’s his job title), had this to say.

“The stories are sensationalistic and over the top… In real life, same-sex weddings are rare.”

(Uh, Glenn, unless you’re talking about the 18,000 legal same-sex marriages that happened in California before Proposition 8 passed.)

Caleb Price, research analyst at Focus on the Family, said some writers in Hollywood are working to desensitize the public to homosexuality and transgenderism.

Now, I’m not a committed soap-watcher like these guys obviously are, but all these years I thought soaps were working to desensitize the public to the idea that characters could suddenly reappear after being dead – a theme that has been on more than one show. I would think that conservatives and Christians would be more worried about desensitizing the public to resurrection (since an entire theology is centered around that act) than lesbianism. Imagine what it will be like if everyone starts to think resurrection is no big deal.

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